Boundaries

I have heard it from friends of mine who have been married for a while and the tale is that as soon as you are married, you have no friends anymore. I have heard so many of my friends say this about a month or so after they first got married. At first my reaction was "well maybe that's because they were just spending too much time with each other and not keeping those friendships close." Which could be true, but I've recently seen really why so many people are saying when you get married you lose all of your friends: it is because as a married couple you are now setting boundaries for the friends you do have. It is very important that our friends are outside of the husband/wife boundary after married and i might say even when courting and being engaged. We need boundaries that will reassure the fidelity we have to each other as husbands and wives. It should be our husbands or wives that we look to to talk about our fears, things we are worried about, and goals that we want to share together. If as a married person, we remain very close with our friends we can start to create other emotional connections that can damage our marriage. It may be easy to "vent" to your girl friends or the guys about the stupid things our spouse does that just irritates the crap out of us. But venting should only be for dryers and  rice cookers. When we vent to other about our relationship it can plant a negative connotation in their minds of our significant other which can cause many problems in the future. If we continue to have close emotional relationships with friends other than our spouse, we can create such strong emotional bonds that can and will lead to romantic feelings and a chance for affairs to happen that bring much pain and suffering.
THESE BOUNDARIES NEED TO BE SET TO PROTECT THE MARRIAGE.  Christ taught this very thing in Matthew when he taught of  marriage:

 And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall ^acleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?

(St Matthew 19:5)

Christ himself taught that we need to do all we can to have boundaries in our marriages that will keep fidelity in our marriages. In my opinion it is not that we loose our friends when we get married, but that we are more cautious when it comes to keeping our marriages strong and be the most rewarding.