The game changer

Think for a second about the phrase "game changer". What comes to mind? Maybe for some it's the end of the 3rd quarter and the QB gets sacked with an injury that has him out for the rest of the season. Maybe its the loss of a loved ones that changes how the rest of your life will play out. Maybe it is even something like transferring to a different University. All of these could be considered "game changers" in the game of life. But I think one game changer that if often overlooked is the first kiss we have in a relationship. It really changes everything. You go from friends one moment to more committed the very next second to the other person. Now, I know there may be some to say that a kiss doesn't really matter in the big scheme of things, it's just a kiss. Lets jump more into this a little bit. 

     Scenario 1: Lets say you find someone that you really like and right away you were to share a kiss with that other person. It's great,you feel good, and that leads to you wanting it more. But here your romantic lover is the only thing being satisfied: there has bit been a friendship created with interests and a real connection with that partner. If the relationship continues it will be harder for you to establish the foundation you need before physical intimacy should be introduced into the relationship. Then before you know it, you develop communication issues with each other which lead to more problems which could then lead to the end of the relationship as you know it. 

   Scenario 2:  Mary and Tim are best friends and have always been best friends since they could remember. Their friends always joked that they would end up marrying each other but always shrugged it off. One day Mary see Tim in a different way and one thing leads to another with the first kiss of two best friends. Later Mary realizes that maybe that kiss wasn't what she thought it would be like and that the people around her only got in her head. Tim feels the same thing, things between the two become awkward and weird and as a result Tim and Mary stop spending time together and their friendship is over. 

     Scenario 3: You find someone you are attracted to physically but also someone who has a personality that peaks your interest. You hang out for a while to establish a relationship but getting to know each other even more, like and dislikes, and just who they are. You come to a point where you really like this person, then dating comes into the mix. You go on a couple dates and realize that you really do like this person and then that first kiss comes: its so much more satisfying because you really do like this person genuinely for who they are and not just for what they look like. That first kiss takes the relationship to a whole new level a greater love to be felt and greater enjoyment in loving that person. 

Ok, so my scenarios may be a little over reaching but you get the idea now. A FIRST KISS CHANGED THE REST OF THE OUTCOME OF A RELATIONSHIP, for better or for worse. It is one of those things that can never be taken back and can never really be forgotten. . I've learned that a first Kiss should not come right away but should be anticipated for that right moment of greater commitment to another person. Too many people are rushing to the physical aspect of a relationship and wanting to feel pleasure with another human being, which can damage that relationship in reality rather than improving it for the better.Research has also found that people who have had many first kisses with many different people are said to show a lack in attaching emotionally to significant others because they have already been exposed to heart break again and again creating a numbness to emotion. This may not have been something that I practiced in my youth as I dated, but I see how that would have helped me to avoid heartbreak and other feelings of sadness that come with the end of relationships. I'm not saying to save the first kiss until your married, that is a bit ridiculous, but I am saying that there should be a time and a place for a kiss to really take the relationship to the next level, for it to change the game.